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Peace with Janet

I’ve finally grown the balls to accept, admit and apologise for my mistakes. I’ve also overcome my handicap – clinging to the past too much. I’ve also learned some thing valuable :

“Love brings misery at times. That is not because of your love but because you want love in return”.

I for one, have always believed that I do know what is love. I was angry with Janet. I was upset. I was sad. Is that the best I can do? Is my love that shallow? May be I do not want a relationship with her any more, but that does not change the facts. Just because she doesn’t love me in return, should I change myself? Should I be a sore loser? May be my love for Janet is not the same, but yet I do love her, as a person, as a friend, as my ex-darling? It is not possible for me to just take some one from my heart and throw them away. That being said, I still love Chia Li as well. Please don’t get me wrong! I’m not into polygamy or anything of that sort. It’s just simple friendly love.

“Love is infinite and eternal”.

I’ve always had this thoughts, but was too mature. I failed to follow what I thought was right. I Failed myself.

“Better late than Never”

I called Janet on Friday evening.Wasted a little bit of her phone credits and told her sorry. This is where it gets funny. I’ve apologised to Janet before on the Internet. She never accepted my apology. She was always kinda hostile since the break up and even more after the Ian issue. All it took was a call and she turned into my little puppy. I swear, when I was talking, I remembered an old incident :

It was morning before going to school. My first pet – ‘Tiger’ chewed on my shoes a little bit. I threw the shoe at it in anger. (Don’t start a lecture on animal rights. I was a kid) When I was back from school, He was hiding under my bed. I called his name once with a friendly tone and thats all it took for him to play with me again

You might find it weird but thats how it is. Then I added her on MSN and had a couple of conversations. Things are definitely not the same. I can still sense a bit of awkwardness and hesitation, but I’m happy. I’m happy that the person I very much care about does not hate me any more (at least I think she doesn’t). I’m happy I’ve finally managed to get my feelings through without screwing up things. This was one of the best weekends I had in a while. I have another big reason for this great weekend. I cannot share it with you guys for that’ll compromise the privacy of my friend.

Moral of this story :

It is never late to do the right thing.


To me, religion is nothing but a guide to make humans live as humans. Lets face it! we were all animals in the past who did not think well. With many generations, we’ve evolved. Every generation is essentially smarter and stronger. Every religion has some thing in common. They preach peace. The purpose of a religion is to tell you what is right and what is not. I do not belong to any religion. I do not want to restrict myself into one religion. I would rather try to take the good aspects of every religion. There is another thing you should consider before claiming you are a Christian, Muslim, Buddhist, Hindu etc., etc., Do you actually believe in your religion? Do you actually follow what you should? How many of us do things in our every day life which we are not supposed to do? How many of us do things which the religions tell us not to?

Jesus – a prophet (in both Christianity and Islam). Lets leave the controversial things aside and think for a moment. What did he actually preach? He preached kindness. He preached forgiveness and tolerance.

You have heard the law that says, ‘Love your neighbor’ and hate your enemy. But I say, love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you! In that way, you will be acting as true children of your Father in heaven. For he gives his sunlight to both the evil and the good, and he sends rain on the just and the unjust alike. If you love only those who love you, what reward is there for that? Even corrupt tax collectors do that much. If you are kind only to your friends, how are you different from anyone else?Matthew 5:43-47

Are you a Christian if you carry hatred to other religions? other races? other people?

“Let there be no compulsion in religion, truth stands out clear from error.” The Holy Koran – Al-Baqarah 2:256

“Those of you possessing affluence and ample wealth should not make oaths that they will not give to their relatives and the very poor and those who have made emigration in the way of God. They should rather pardon and overlook. Would you not love God to forgive you? God is Ever-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” The holy Koran- 24:22

Are you a true Muslim if you harbor hatred in your hearts for other religions? other races? other people?

These are similar Quotes from other religions :

This is the sum of Dharma [duty]: Do naught unto others which would cause you pain if done to you”. Mahabharata, 5:1517

“Hurt not others in ways that  would find hurtful.” Udana-Varga 5:18

And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise.” Luke 6:31, King James Version.

“Therefore, neither does he cause violence to others nor does he make others do so.” Acarangasutra 5.101-2.

All things are our relatives; what we do to everything, we do to ourselves. All is really One.Black Elk

“Don’t create enmity with anyone as God is within everyone.” Guru Arjan Devji 259

Every other religion has a similar preaching some where in their holy scriptures. Then there is revenge and self-protection and many other controversial statements.You can always interpret things in different ways. The holy scriptures, words of god, sayings of prophets or what ever you believe in are some thing, which was said a long time ago. I respect every religion and their holy scriptures, so I shall not bring forth the crookedly misinterpreted sayings of any religions. My motive here is not to hate you or to make you hate me, but to make you think for a second about what you actually believe. Every thing which you do and believe in the name of religion, usually has a logical reason behind it. Every religion teaches you one thing “Be a good human”.

“Much has been said of the common ground of religious unity. I am not going just now to venture my own theory. But if any one hopes that this unity will come by the triumph of any one of the religions and the destruction of the others, to him I say, `Brother, you are dreaming too much`” Swami Vivekananda (a Hindu monk)

“Every religion emphasizes human improvement, love, respect for others, sharing other people’s suffering. On these lines every religion had more or less the same viewpoint and the same goal.The Dalai Lama

The above quotes are words of wisdom. There will never be a universal religion, you can restrict yourself into a small circle and call it your religion and keep on misinterpreting things, or you can break the borders and look at the world in a broad-minded view. Only a human can follow a religion. Be a human before being a Hindu, Muslim, Christian or what ever that you believe in. Every one of us is different. We have different gender, religion, economic status, beliefs, moral values, thoughts, preferences, ideas, body, hair, style, looks, skin, language, sexual orientation etc., the list is very long, but since we are all human beings, the least we must do is  treat every one the way we want to be treated.

First Post.

This is my first post in this blog. I’ve left my old blog’s posts to die as they do not have a point any more. They ere mostly about Janet. What kind of moron will blog only about his GF? My kind :p

Welcome to my new blog. I hope you will enjoy your stay here. Honestly, I do not actually care about you enjoying my blog much. For the sake of being polite and nice, I shall pretend to care about it a lot. I’ll however try to make the posts enjoyable for myself. You can save your ‘Sunny is Selfish!’ to yourself. I know I’m :p

On a serious note, You know I love you (Do I ?). Leave comments if you would like to give me some feedback / advice or anything along the lines. I’m a very stubborn guy, so do not be disappointed if I don’t take your advice. Like I’ve mentioned in the about me page, if your only aim is to bash me, I’ll simply block you or ignore you. I only need friends and well-wishers. I do not need idiots to troll me here :p. The above statement does not affect genuine critics. I can take criticism rather well. I might try to debate with you a bit before giving in, but I do admit my mistakes once I’m convinced :p

I’ll be posting some stuff from my past to start with. Lets rock on roll!!!!