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A piece of Advice

Who told you it couldn’t be done, and what great achievements has he performed that qualified him to set up limitations for you?

You will find as you go through life that those who give advice most freely are precisely the people who are least qualified to do so. Busy, successful people don’t have an interest in telling you how to live your life. They are busy living their own. Failures or mediocre people have all the time in the world. They also delight in seeing you fail, and are quick to say “I told you so” when you experience a temporary setback. If someone tells you that what you are attempting to achieve is impossible or not worth the effort, take a close look at them and what they have accomplished with their lives. The chances are good that you will find they haven’t done much. Successful people are optimistic people. They have the habit of success because they learned long ago to listen to themselves and not to those who would like to see them fail.


This was a post on the most famous brick-less wall in the cyberspace or as you might have heard “The Facebook Wall”, by a friend of mine. Every time I see some one mentioning anything about  “The Facebook Wall,” it leaves me wondering if it is more popular than “The Great Wall of China.” It probably might as well be more popular, considering the intelligent levels of many teenagers who use Facebook (as far as I’ve noticed). Pardon my “our generation is superior” attitude shown if you are a weak hearted representative of the fittest species of all – the Homo Sapiens, and  younger than myself and if it did hurt your feelings. It was deliberately mentioned for the sake of making a funny and mean comment just because I can and it is free! As an Indian, I do like anything that is free and as a part-time ignorant idiot, I do things just because I can (Just kidding :) ).

This friend of mine, who I used to consider as just another useless, worthless human being wasting his god-given potential in his silly adventures to seek false pleasures of life. May be it was my exaggerated superiority complex I had then. Though it still peeks out from inside me from time to time, I somehow have managed to control such biased and morally incorrect manifestations of my ignorance. Finally, I’ve learnt the meaning of my father’s words – “Do not ever underestimate any one.” I shall reveal the truth here – I despise stupid people. I simply cannot tolerate people who really are stupid. Having said that, I must also admit that, I’ve learnt that every one is unique and everyone has their own talents and specialities. The time I spent on analysing myself and my ideas for 4 years after the painful breakup I had, has opened my eyes to my mistakes and I believe has increased my intelligence, and analytical skills.

May be this is exactly why I should show gratitude to the invisible supernatural being who lives in and rules over the so-called “Heaven” with an existence neither proven nor unproven by any one. But as the old Tamil proverb, which an old female poet wrote allegedly a f, says:

«அன்னையும் பிதாவும் முன்னறி தெய்வம் » (One’s mother and father should come even before God.)

Most probably (taking the liberty to consider you an individual, who is psychologically healthy and stable guy unlike some extra creepy psychopath serial killers with childhood deprivation of parental love and care) just like your parents, mine brought me in this evil world and gave me a lot of troubles and restrictions in my childhood that I used to hate as a child and understand as I grow up, which eventually shaped me up into who I am today along with my excellent teachers who held my hand all the way till today. I believe, I should thank them before thanking the invisible fellow.

Thank you Mother, father, teachers (Especially, those who taught me in my school [VHSS]), and oh I thank the invisible fellow as well. It is because you guys, I am who and how I am today (I wanted to add “With very high intelligence and etc., etc., but then decided against it, ’cause I don’t want to risk being found as an imbecile suffering from extreme superiority complex”). I also feel the urge to thank my beloved brother, who is more of the eldest son in our family than my brother, for always telling me the words I need to hear, regardless of their bitterness and keeping me in line.

If My memory serves right, it was Buddha who said that, “Life is short. Time is fleeting. Realize the Self. Purity of the heart is the gateway to God. Aspire. Renounce. Meditate. Be good; do good. Be kind; be compassionate. Inquire, know Thyself.” or something along the lines.

I still cannot admire him enough for such a thought which in my opinion is the juice of our life, or more precisely, the way of life. For a few years before I fell in love with Elizabeth, the queen of my heart and soul and for the records is much special and better than any other queens that ever lived, lives and will live on our small planet, I was very much impressed by the thoughts of Buddhism and was wanting to find myself and the meaning of my supposedly meaningless life, by pursuing path of a Buddhist monk. So, please forgive me if I’m a little too much pro Buddhist philosophy and ideas. I believe I’m completely neutral, logical and unbiased regardless of I being fond of Buddhism, its principles and teachings.

At that particular period of my life, if I would have found a proper Buddhist temple in Moscow, I might probably be a monk today with a shaved head in Scarlett red and yellow outfit. However, I’ve preserved the moral values and lessons learnt from the words of Buddha and his disciples. Regardless of your religious beliefs, in my humble opinion, which apparently is rarely humble , good morals gained from the words of Buddha will definitely make you a better person as any other religion. Please do not take my word for it, feel free to search for “Buddha quotes” on http://google.com or follow this link: Search Google for Buddha’s Quotes ) and get instant meaningful reading materials from the search giant Google Inc.

So my friend, Mr. Paras Rana, the founder, proprietor, CEO, CFO, etc., of EurasiaExim (An international import export and educational services company registered in many countries), who I still think is wasting his potential, posted that meaningful piece of advice on his “Facebook wall”. Though I do and noticed others post some meaningful advices and motivational quotes to sound intelligent (most of those idiots copy and paste famous quotes of some great minds and pretend to have thought of it on their own, unlike me and my friend Mr. Paras Rana), only a few of these posts do actually get you thinking for a few minutes. Let alone driving you to write a blog post about it. Though the post is not saying anything that we don’t already know, how many of us did actually gave a thought about it before reading it from his post? Let me thank him for giving my brain some thing to digest and get my silly little mind off the problems I face.

Now to the core issue that’s being addressed in his post – Advice and it’s significance (Oh well, it sounds better this way and gives an interestingly serious ring to it.) I do not recall any one who likes being advised in their early days, especially in their teen years and early twenties. We humans are dangerously prone to underestimate others and look down on others as if we are somehow more intelligent, handsome etc., than all the others – as if we are very special and better than almost all the rest of the representatives of our species – the Homo Sapiens. It has been the most common reason for wars in the past and have claimed countless lives. Since I’ve taken my time to think about and analyse myself, I’ve preserved my urge to strive to not err in such manners and started seeing the people I already know in a different light.

A few years back, if Mr. Paras Rana were to give me any advice, I’d most definitely ignore them and might as well be rude enough to let him know that I didn’t give a crap about his thoughts or his advices. But now, I have grown up to see the positive side of Mr. Paras Rana, whose name is still associated with a cartoon image of amateur alcoholic who never cares or respects money – A spoilt kid from a rich family, deep inside my mind at a subconscious level. A couple of months ago, when I met Paras after almost half a decade, I sat for couple of hours doing nothing thinking about the reasons behind such an image being associated with his name.

Surprisingly, I couldn’t recall anything other than the stories and baseless accusations made by a certain batch mate of mine, who I know to have done many mischievous things to Paras years ago as he was spreading stories about the infamous Paras Rana and his evilness. I could even remember the many lies that I heard about him and his behaviour. I shall give both parties benefit of doubt since I did not witness any of it to vouch for. Those stories might be as much true as it might be fake. But, since they did not and do not affect me in any way, however difficult it might be, I shall try to erase all those baseless prejudices against a person who I think is a friend and well-wisher of mine,. Though highly embarrassing, past cannot be changed and admitting our mistakes, makes us a better person. I also wish to take this opportunity to Apologise to this idiot friend of mine. I’m so sorry Paras, for having had, and still have such thoughts about you.

Regardless of the residual effects that still haunt my heart, two months after my decision to erase all prejudices against Paras, I’ve slowly grown up to recognise the noble heart of his and his thoughts enriched with high moral values and intelligence, which all of us should think and analyse. Buddha said,

“Do not blindly believe in everything. Do not blindly believe even in what I say. Do not believe me because others convince you of my words. Do not believe anything you see, read, or hear from others, whether of authority, religious teachers or texts. Do not rely on logic alone, nor speculation. Don’t infer or be deceived by appearances.”

We are the masters our own mind and body. We have a very powerful organ called brain, and it is given to us for a reason. Since we are too quick to claim our species as the most evolved and most intelligent living being on our planet, It is only just to use it and think, analyse, and decide on our own.

Main problem of us – the Homo Sapiens is that we often forget to follow our own words. Most of the people who read the aforementioned rather meaningful post by my dear Paras, probably are blaming some body else in their minds for giving free and false advices. Just to make a little tuning to the well thought out thought of him, I shall be bold enough to take the liberty to add some thing of my own and count on his neutral reaction (Most people simply cannot take criticism and unfortunately can never admit their mistakes).

We should not forget to heed our own advice and we should always think twice before giving some one a false advice for free just because you can and it is free!!! Resist your Indian instincts!! Free advices are given by us to others and others to us. We should work on both ends to keep up fairness. I am pretty sure that every one of us can think of instances when we gave free and unnecessary advices without even having a clue, just for the sake of giving an advice.

Though most free advices come from those who have not achieved much of anything in their lives and are least qualified to give any advice at all, we should not and must not disregard all the advices given to us alike and certainly should not err by underestimating any one. My thoughts on this matter is quite similar to my friend’s, but I do not agree that you should not care about what others around you have to say about anything.

I do agree that each of us live for our own selves and should always make decisions on our own, but using the main centre of our central nervous system to think about the advices given by even a guy, who is an example of complete failure, and analyse the truth in it. Feedbacks from others are usually rather useful. As I write this post, I think I’ve not made any mistakes in it thus far; however, some one else even with a much lesser fluency in English, might actually point out a few mistakes in it. It always is easy to see what is wrong when you step aside and see from a 3rd person’s point of view. For those others who we might regard as failures, useless idiots and such, our mistakes might be quite visible while we are blind to them.

Having said that, We have reached the end of this post and I’d like to end this post by reminding you that the best way to fight with pointless advices or suggestions is to stop giving such to others. If we want to change the world, we should change ourselves and our mentality first. Please press the turn on switch of your brain, think, use your logical & analytical skills to calculate all the possible and impossible options you have regardless of their origin, if you cannot find the switch, you are either mentally ill or in love, so please do yourself and every one else a favour  and visit your psychiatrist :p. Do not ignore the options you pulled out of the inferior end of your digestive tract or those that were given to you by others. Remember the words of Buddha:

Do not blindly believe in everything. Do not blindly believe even in what I say. Do not believe me because others convince you of my words. Do not believe anything you see, read, or hear from others, whether of authority, religious teachers or texts. Do not rely on logic alone, nor speculation. Don’t infer or be deceived by appearances.

 

 

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4 hours

Quite some time ago, I joined a few inline skater groups online. That was when I got my first in- line skates. Already being part of many online groups, I must say that I noticed very less activities in those groups. I met a cute girl names ‘Nadya‘ in one of those groups. I got a little carried away and losing my usual ‘I don’t talk to strangers, because my mama told me not to’ state, started talking to her. It was usually, I asking dumb questions about skates and such.

In a few days, I almost felt like I’ve found a new friend in her. She is a student in a I-don’t-fucking-remember-the-name-of-it college. She is an aspiring hairstylist on her 3rd year. After my earlier haircut from a good hairstylist, I was a little hyped up on getting a good hair-cut. She told me that she needed some heads to train for her practical. Coincidentally, her practice was starting from 30th may. That is the time when I’d need a haircut, so I volunteered to offer my precious head.

Honestly, I had my razor ready, just for the worst case scenario. Like they say “hope for the best and prepare for the worst”. What is the worst that can happen right? I’ll just forget the episode of the trauma of the ear-lobe I got when I was 5. Luckily for me, the cut was too small and by now, even the scar is not visible. I’m a student myself and my field demands that I train on people. If I wasn’t ready to let some one else study on me, it would probably make me the same selfish prick as every other dude in my university. Continue reading 4 hours

Growth of FB is bad.

Facebook is growing everyday. India is one of the few countries in which the growth is viral. I’m usually all for “More the merrier” policy when it comes to social networks. However, the growth of Facebook has seriously crippled many users like myself.

Growing everyday in my home country, Facebook has attracted many of the members of my family. It is getting harder and harder to keep my posts protected from them. For me it is impossible to just block them and it is quite hard to filter out the posts every time to keep things under control.

This might sound a bit weird to you. It might not even make any sense. To think about it – What is it that I’d want to conceal from my family but share freely with my cyber-buddies?

I guess I owe you an explanation. Let me give you an example :

I would gladly share how many cigarettes I smoke everyday with my buddies and even strangers. However, when this information gets to one of my family member, I’ll have to listen to a long session of advice on how harmful they are and how I should quit smoking.

Technically, they will be right to say those things. But by almost being a doctor, I already know all the possible side-effects of smoking. I do not have to add “endlessly boring advises” in that list for any logical reason.

Facebook growing very fast is very bad for maintaining privacy and it is almost inevitable. I do not see any solution but to start filtering everything I share on the social networks before I get into some awkward moments. What do you think?

The Server and Shizzles

Other than my parents and other important human beings, nothing has been more important to me than my dead maplestory emulation server “NinjaMS“. Yes, I’ve said it. The server is literally dead. No one plays the server any more. However, I plan on reviving the server. I’ve shut the donations system so fags like Mr.AJ wont come around and ask to be given special treatment.

Some of you might not know that AJ probably used a stolen credit card to donate to the server. The donations were later charged back by the credit card holder which left us at $800+ debt. A month after that some strange guy with a nick ‘secksy’ who had donated 180USD to the server also charged back. Thanks to all the dedicated players who poured in donations, we struggled our way out of that crisis.

For the past few months, I’ve been paying for the server out of my pocket and I’m really very happy about it. I’ve always wanted to keep the server donation free. Now we have one less reason for Nexon to ask us shut down.

However, lately it has been very difficult for me to spend time on the server. I want to update the server to v83, but I want to fix all the lousy issues and add all the pre v75 features to the server before going v83. I already got Oliver’s v83 sauce to leech off packets from. Its just a matter of TIME before we go v83.

Like I’ve posted in one of my previous posts, Time is very valuable. I wish I never had to sleep or by some magical way, or in some magical way had more than 24 hrs in a day. Time management is some thing I was never good with. After being off the source code for a long time now, I take a awful lot of time to do even the simple things which I’d have done in few minutes, a few months back.

It is time for me to find more time to work on NinjaMS and get my touch back. I hope I’ll do it for the sake of the few dedicated players who are still expecting me to do some thing about the dead server and for myself. It is some thing I worked on for more than a year and I cannot just throw it away now.

Flirtatious conversations

I’ve been interacting with my old friends, who I’ve been ignoring for a long time, a lot lately. It has been a very sweet experience to catch up with people that I like. Yesterday I had a very flirtacious chat session with my friend from Greece – Konstantina. We spoke for a long time about her job and her country, which led me to wish I could live in Greece.

The real hindrance to living in Greece is the language barrier. Greek does not seem to be a easy-to-learn language. Since I’ve always been good with learning new languages, I guess I’ll stay optimistic about this. Now thinking about the chat puts a smile on my face, as it was unbelievable flirtacious. I’ve known her for a long time but we never had such conversations.

Later, I tried to start a similar conversation with Romi Vaitz from Israel, but she just went AFK. BUMMER! On a side note, Romi has one of the most kissable-looking lips I’ve ever seen.

Then I had a long chat with Racho, the 12 year old kid that fakes her age. She was telling me about how much a hard time she has in her school and the amount of work she has to do which was literally building up great stress situation. I said some nice words to her and adviced her to take things a little easy. That conversation reminded me of my times in the schools.

It was not much different from hers except it was in India, where the system used to be very tough on the kids. Now there has been a lot of reforms in the educational system and it is much better than the previous one though the productivity I think has been compromised a little. Some day I will write up a detailed post about my school in India.

I had a similar catch up session with Jennifer, my old friend from Peru. I feel that she is one of the most good looking friends I ever had. We spoke in spanish mostly and later on I switched to spanglish since my spanish proficiency is a lot rusty. I used to talk fluently in Spanish a few years ago and now it is ver difficult to even understand. Practice makes perfect. I guess I’ll have to practice my Spanish more often if I want to remember the language.

My job at “The Imperial Tailoring Co.” technically is blogger + social media manager. Like every one else in my office, I do everything my boss wants me to do. Don’t let your imagination run wild. Its mostly some simple things like “Get this document photocopied”, “Mail my friend and remind him about his appointment” and some stuff like that.